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I lost my son, Marcus, seven and half years ago after a long battle with addiction. He tried desperately hard to overcome this, by going into rehab in Switzerland and then using opiate blockers. He was successful for a whole year when he met an old ‘friend’.
How fateful is that, and how often have you heard that before? Because he had been opiate free for a whole year his tolerance was low and unfortunately he went into a coma.
For one whole week I, with his father, was at his bedside but he never regained consciousness. I had one week to hold his hand, tell him how much I loved him and prayed. He was a wonderful son, who so bitterly regretted going down the road to addiction.
He was an outgoing, extrovert personality who, like many teenagers, like to take a risk. How I wish with all my heart that had been climbing mountains or diving deep, but he just tried drugs out of curiosity and succumbed.
I eventually met anaother Mum who lost her son in similar circumstances, through The Compassionate Friends. When you lose a child to addiction it is very different and you feel alone. Susan lost her son Luke and we decided to set up a support group specifically for parents who had lost a child in this way and so our journey began.
We are now joined by many other parents through our group, The Luke and Marcus Trust, and together we support each other and also campaign vigorously to create awareness of the problems that drug/alcohol addiction create in families and society in general.
We can never bring our sons back, but we can turn a negative into a positive in memory of our lovely sons. Thanks to my son I have met the most wonderful people and I know his young life has not been in vain. God Bless you Marcus and thank you for all the joy you have given me.
I can’t say how genuinely happy I am to see you here and blogging. We don’t yet hear enough from the families and carers, who after all are as much affected by addiction as the addict themselves.
Your message of hope is inspiring!
This is truly inspiring. Thank you for being here.
(a rather humbled) Keiran
Sorry for your loss,As an addict in early recovery thank you both for your story,Cant imagine how you have felt over the years,Think it’s a real wake up call to alot of people.It’s wonderfull that you have put the negative of the loss of your sons in to positive to help others and keep thier memory alive.I Cant put it in to words how i feel after reading your blog,It’s just lovely what you are doing now,Thanks for sharing think it can help alot of people and yourself’s at the same time,I wish you all the best,Take care Claire.x
This is a wonderful blog, thank you for sharing it with us. Your prace seems to shine through your blog and finding the positive of mutual support in the midst of the tragedy you have both experienced brings hope. We’d all like to hear more about your group and perhaps you can give some pointers to some of our members who are thinking up groups in their local areas.
The issue of diminished tolerance is a very real and important one.
This moved me very much – thank you so much for finding us, telling us your story and for all your good work.
My thoughts are with you.
Am truelly choked by your blog, eyes became tearful and had to wipe to read screen. Thank you for the blog, you are so brave and setting up the Luke and Marcus Trust is pucker.
I have loads of Guilt and Shame in the harm I caused to family and friends. This country just does not realise in so many ways, the ones who suffer the most are not us addicts, it is the likes of you and others, yet you have gone a step futher and set up a support group.
PUCKER.
Thank you all for your lovely comments, and my heart is with you all who are still trying to overcome addictions. Only you know how hard it is, my son used to say it was like having a little crab in your head, constantly agitating to be heard. I hope and pray you continue to beat that feeling. We don’t think of ourselves as brave, just Mums who loved our children and know how much they meant to us, and what worth they were – great worth, just as you are too. Keep up the fight and remember there are plenty of other Mums out their giving their positive thoughts for your success. If you want to know more about us, our website is http://www.thelukeandmarcustrust.org.uk. Good luck to all of you. Marilyn
As a parent I can only imagine the pain and helpless frustration in seeing a child dance along the tightrope to disaster that is addiction. I am so glad that you have formed your support group both as a way to make some sense of your own tragedy but also to offer support others who have suffered as you have.
Every best wish to all the members of your group.
Lisbeth
Hi Marilyn,
yeh would love to meet up with you, and our support group is getting a lot of advertising, and already I am receiving calls from mums who would like to come to our support group, I know there is a great need in Calderdale.
I would like to attend the meeting at GASPED in Dewsbury hopefully to gain their support and to see how their group is going, and to see if their are any point to learn from.
Hi Anne Marie – good to hear from you. We will try to arrange a meeting with you in the near future. Best wishes to all in your group. Marilyn
I cannot imagin your pain but beiing the mum of three sons who have had addictions i understand the pain that this brings. I know the value of other carers is invaluable. I am the founder member of a group i offer my support to any group.
yours June C
